TROUBLESOM PARTNER.
Introduction
God instituted marriage and expect the couples to live in peace and harmony. Sometimes the carnal nature of man comes into play and this brings about various problems it the home. The wife or the husband can become very problematic. In such a situation how does one cope?
WHO IS A TROUBLESOM PARTNER
A troublesome partner is any married man or woman who is no longer truly committed to his or her marriage vow. Such a partner behaves irrationally as he or she is no longer serious about any thing that has to do with the marriage relationship. Such a one is so very much unstable in all his or her ways. He or she is quarrelsome, hostile, and not interested in the well being of the family.
WHAT MAKES ONE A TROUBLESOME PARTNER?
The foundation of being troublesome rest on the inability of one to understand who one is in Christ Jesus, who has given us the power to be Gods children, and being conscious of this makes any partner to be trouble free. The lack of reading and hearing the word of God daily is also another thing that can make one to become so very much troublesome.
Lack of communication between married couples can cause very serious trouble in the home as it leads to lack of trust. Couples should be able to communicate very freely with each other at any point in time on any topic. If either partner notices any troublesome area he or she should discuss it and promptly pray against it
WHAT IS THE CURE?
Thanks be to the almighty God for his everlasting cure and solution for a troublesome partner in marriage. The word of God contains his promises for every problem in life so that godliness can be maintained. 2pet 1: 3 and 4 says” as His divine power has given to us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, by which have been given to us exceedingly great and precious promises, that through these you may be partakers of the divine nature, having escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust.”
If the married couples are truly Christians the non-troublesome partner has the spiritual foundation to link up with God. He or she should be very serious to lift up the troublesome partner in prayer and after prayer believe God for the solution. After you have prayed thus exercise your faith and think of only things that are lovely. phi 4: 8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy--meditate on these things.
The sprite of the almighty God that dwells inside of every Christian couple will surely comfort them in times of troubles.
Each partner of a couple should try and identify his or her God given role in other to reduce friction in the home. It is not Gods will for us to be a thorn in the flesh of each other.1cor 7 : 4 -5 says” 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control”. Wife and husband beating each other and keeping of late nights is never and will never be the solution. Each partner should pray for each other and learn to exercise a very high level of tolerance. I leave you with the word of God in 1cor 7 :10-16” 10 Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband.
11 But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
12 But to the rest I, not the Lord, say: If any brother has a wife who does not believe, and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her.
13 And a woman who has a husband, who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her, let her not divorce him.
14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
15 But if the unbeliever departs, let him depart; a brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases. But God has called us to peace.
16 For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?
REFLECTIONS
What troublesome behaviors do we find in marriage today?
Should one be shy about seeing a councilor about a troublesome partner?
